Just Haven't Met You Yet
06 April, 2015
The other day, I stumbled upon a rather strange television show: Married at First Sight on A&E. People signed up to be analyzed by a group of "love doctors," to be matched up with their future spouse. The kicker: their first face-to-face interaction was at the alter. Pretty ballsy, if you ask me, but hey - who am I to judge?
Reality TV tends to draw a serious bandwidth of followers. I mean, who wouldn't be intrigued, these people were handing their entire future over to a group of so-called "experts" to choose their SPOUSE, for goodness sakes! For better or for worse, richer or poorer, grow old together, his and hers bath sets MARRIAGE. Nuts, I tell ya. Nuts.
The show got me to thinking - what was running through their minds moments before walkng down the aisle? Would they find their match attractive? Or charming? Or friendly?
The show has a few (far-fetched) parallels to real life. Single's, whom haven't found their "match," can sometimes wonder if there's anyone out there for them: "How will I ever find the right person living in this small town?" "Is there really someone who'd want to spend the rest of their lives with me, of all people?"
God gives us specific desires for a reason: so He can fulfill them. Learn to dance with God, and before you know it, the right man (or woman for all you chap's) will step in. Instead of worrying about making yourself more "appealing" or "cool," do what makes you happy. Go for hikes, visit museums, take a solo road trip, sign up for a paint class... Out of the blue, the right person with similar interests will pop in. That's what God does; He takes joy in surprising those who trust Him.
Meanwhile, try writing a letter (or even a journal) to that special someone. Once your wedding day hits, you'll have an amazing present to give. What's more romantic than saying "I've loved you before I've even met you?"
And ladies, this isn't just for you. Believe it or not, lots of MEN (cutoff wearing, football watching, hand-me-another-beer men) do this! Dolls, YOU may find a surprise on your wedding day, too.
A dear boy friend of mine (notate the space), a former college athlete, currently working in fitness, shared a little secret with me: He writes letters to his future girl! And believe it or not, he was willing to share a recent snipet, telling me to keep his name anonymous (although for a small fee I may be able to get you his number - instert virtual high five). Enjoy!
Dear future babe,
I've been single a couple years now, going on the occasional date - nothing too serious. Sometimes I'll accompany my friends out for a few drinks, but the girls I meet out are few and far between. I'm pretty sure I haven't met you yet, I feel like I'll know when we meet. But less about me, more about you.
I promise to care for you with every inch of my being. I promise to protect you, helping you see just how beautiful you are, every single day. I promise to compliment you on how you look in the red dress I bought you and how good your blueberry pancakes are and how much better at yoga you are than me. I promise to hold your hand until we're 100 years old, never forgetting how lucky I am to call you mine. I promise to never drop the D-word; we'll be in it for the long haul - and I'll never speak of regret. I promise to sing along with the radio, as awful as my voice is, making you laugh. I promise to kiss you goodnight, to make you my favorite chili [because you will not be vegan ;) ], and to go to those cheesy romance movies with you. I promise I'll respect your mom and learn from your father, and call him sir.
I pray you have a heart for Jesus, becoming my better half and pointing to the Gospel whenever I fall. I pray you're patient with me, because I'm far from perfect - ask my friends. I pray you're sweet and kind. And most importantly, I pray you make a mean steak and potato dinner.
I love you already. I'm making mistakes along the way, but I entrust our future to Christ.
Love you baby girl. See ya soon, right?
Forever, [Anonymous]
When I asked which song he'd like to accompany the post, he opted for this. Ha! He's a jokester, but he's also the exact type of man I urge you to allow Christ to bring into your life. On that note, chase after your dreams. God's a better matchmaker than Nicholas Sparks, He's got it handled.
