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08 May, 2015
I get quite a few messages regarding my blog posts. Some are lighthearted and fun... people telling me they like my jokes or stories or songs. But others are heavy... people sharing their addictions, their attempts at suicide, their messy divorces, or their depression. I am completely unfit to help these people like I wish I could, but I do my best by pointing them to Christ. I myself am not a wise person, but I know The One who is wiser than all, and that is the big man upstairs. Keep the messages coming, I'm obviously no therapist but I do love your feedback, suggestions, and stories.
Below's a message I received a few days ago from a boy I went to high school with. He was well-known for being quite the jock and ladies man. He's a hard-working, rough-around-the-edges type of guy, and I was taken by complete surprise to hear his thoughts on dating. He's single and on the lookout for the right girl, and he shared some wisdom on navigating through the sea of potential mate's.
I'm not sure how many, if any, messages you get from guys on your blog, but here goes. I just got done reading your latest post about ending things with the perfect guy (or girl in my case) and even though I havent been in a long term relationship in a long time, it really resonated with me. You see, lately I've been asking myself more than I'd like to admit why I can't ever seem to really settle down with a good woman.
The answer jumped out at me when I read your latest entry - it's because they dont meet the essential requirements I look for in a woman. I will admit, I am not the most devout Christian, I tend to find myself worshipping more internally than externally, but deep down I want a woman of faith, who stays faithful through all the hard times. In the end, if a woman can't stay faithful to Christ in the worst of times, how can I expect her to stay faithful to me? If a woman can't humble herself to Christ when she needs help, how can I expect her to seek my help when she needs it?
All this to say, I follow your posts more closely than I think most men would admit, but they really resonate with me on a deep personal level, and this last week has been especially trying for me and I just wanted to say thanks, reading this helped calm me, and helped me understand my life a lot further than just relationships.
I've learned the only real way to meet the one you're meant for is purely through patience. Trying to force something that isn't, or be someone you aren't, only leads to more headache and heartache, in my experience anyways.
You've definitely imparted a great deal of wisdom on me. You have a wonderful way of articulating your innermost thoughts in an easy to relate to fashion. Thank you.
Cool, eh? There truly are good guys out there looking for women of faith and integrity. Some of them being guys you'd least expect! Be encouraged, friends, because someone out there is waiting for a heart like yours - a heart of inner confidence and outward submission. REAL men are looking for women with a sincere faith. Like this guy said, how can a man take a woman seriously if she doesn't even give Christ the time of day? Real men date women who love Jesus.
And ladies, if you want this boys digits, message me and maybe I can work some magic. (but really, he's a catch)
