HOW TO: Become Precious
02 October, 2015
Once I started regularly going to church three years ago, I kept hearing about Proverbs 31. It's a chapter of the Bible devoted to how to be a good wife, and it seems like every Christian woman is obsessed with it.
Guess what? I am too. (...lol)
Out of all the lines in the chapter about how to be a lovely wife (being precious, trustworthy, loving, capable), my favorite line is actually about the type of MAN a good wife should have:
Her husband is well known at the city gates, where he sits with the other city leaders. (Proverbs 31:23)
What does this mean? That a smart woman (aka a future kickbutt wife) will ONLY settle for a man who is:
- respected by the community
- doing his part to better peoples' lives
- hanging out with other motivated, focused men
STEP ONE for a single woman with hopes to be a good, loving wife one day? Don't settle for a loser.
What exactly is a loser? A man who does not follow Christ.
A little harsh, I know. And some of you will read this and scoff. But, having read the last page of the Bible, God makes it clear. Jesus and His followers win at the end.
There are many, many, many attractive, lovely men out there who don't follow Christ. But they are not for you, beloved. Wait for a man who is not only RESPECTED, HELPING OTHERS, and SURROUNDED BY SUCCESSFUL PEOPLE, but a man who loves Christ.
Then and only then will your future home be filled with Light. Then and only then will you be respected as a woman of faith by your man.
As Proverbs 31 explains, a virtuous and capable wife is more precious than rubies.
Wait for a man who cherishes every detail about you. Wait for a man who loves your imperfections. Wait for a man who reminds you of Jesus. Wait for a man with a deeper faith than you. Wait for a man who treats you like a queen. Wait for a man you can't help but treat like a king.
If you are single and waiting for Prince Charming, rejoice. God has a plan for you. Do not settle.... again, do not settle.
Meanwhile, grab your smart phone and open the "notes" app. Create a new page for each topic below and add new things whenever they come to you. Enjoy your singleness, princess. God wants you to.
- What do you want your future marriage to look like?
- What type of woman do you want to be as a wife?
- What are some things you'd like to do once married? (travel, adopt, etc)
- What are some passions and hobbies to enjoy while single? (paint, photography, etc)
- What are some non-negotiables in a future husband? (character, attributes, interests)
And remember honey, you are already married. Jesus did the most romantic thing ever by dying for you. You are not alone... even as you read this. You can say anything you want to Him anytime, anywhere.
^ Check out this song... it's less about marriage as we think of it and moreso about our "marriage" with Christ. It's very profound. "We are so easily satisifed by the call of lovers less wild." Jesus is better than any husband, ladies. Always and forever.
